Being in love is a good
thing, but it is not the best thing.
There are many things below
it, but there are also things above it.
You cannot make it the
basis of a whole life. It is a noble
feeling, but it is still a feeling...
Knowledge can last,
principles can last, habits can last; but feelings come and go...
But, of course, ceasing to
be "in love" need not mean ceasing to love.
Love in this second sense -
love as distinct from "being in love" -
is not merely a feeling. It is a deep unity, maintained by the will and
deliberately strengthened by habit; reinforced by (in Christian marriage) the
grace which both partners ask, and receive, from God...
"Being in love"
first moved them to promise fidelity: this quieter love enables them to keep
the promise. It is on this love that the
engine of marriage is run:
being in love was the
explosion that started it."
~CS Lewis
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